How would you react?

[Detroit]

Today I found out that my best friend, since we were 8 years old, the father of a 5 year old girl, 3 year old boy, and a 10 day old baby boy, now only has 2 children. His 10 day old baby boy died from liver and kidney failure along with congestive heart failure. We have been close for 30 years and I consider his mother my own mom. We have not spoken in a couple of months (both of us just super busy in our daily lives) and received this disturbing news in a text message this morning (as if my morning wasn't already chaotic).

I have spoken to everyone in his family at this point, except for him. What would you do?

Do I call him? Do I wait to hear from him?

I have no experience in this area, as my 16 year old son has always been healthy. I'm not sure how to feel or react. I don't want to burden him, nor push him, or make him uncomfortable. I have texted him 3 times today, all back to back texts within 2 minutes and gotten no reply. How long do I wait until I call him or just drive my ass to his house?

[Detroit]

This should read just drive my "butt" to his house?

[LA Dodgers]

Bro ive been in his shoes. Drive to his damn house and support him in any way possible. He will tell u if its too much or not.

[Deleted]

Oh man.....I can't Imagine losing a child. Personally I would call first just to make sure he is home but as LAD said - GO OVER THERE.....just show up for support. It's probably too soon after the loss for him to really reach out. I suspect his initial text took a lot out of him. Just show up and offer what you can. Sincere condolences to you and your friends family.

[ex-Pittsburgh Pirates]

Call. Let him know you are available. Then check on him in another day or 2 if you don't hear from in.
unimaginable horror to lose a child

[Deleted]

i lost my sister exactly 1 month ago. and as the tears hit the keyboard you need to reach out and support your friend. nothing like being there in this time of need.

[Detroit]

LA, I know you have experience like this. It's awful....just awful. I've reached out already, but wanted to give him a day or 2. I plan to go see him on Saturday morning at the latest. He knows I'm here.

I'm picking his brother up from JFK Saturday morning, so it's a good time for me to go over there once we get back from the airport.